Choose Violence

Why and When You Should Choose Violence: The Unexpected Path to Higher Vibration and Personal Freedom

We’ve all heard the phrase “choose violence” in jest, usually referring to someone’s decision to stir up a bit of chaos. But what if I told you that consciously choosing anger—acknowledging it, embracing it, and expressing it—can be a vital step on the path to personal freedom and higher vibration?

The Conditioning to Suppress Anger

We are conditioned from an early age—especially as Black women—to suppress our anger, to remain composed, polite, and agreeable. Society ingrained in us the belief that anger is destructive, unattractive, and even dangerous. Many women, struggling with their self-worth, first took up the charge to keep the peace and swallow their pain and frustration, often at great personal cost.

This conditioning serves a purpose: to keep us compliant and disconnected from our power. Because anger, when harnessed and understood, is a transformative force. It’s the emotion that signals something isn’t right, that boundaries have been crossed, or that we deserve more than what we’ve been given.

Anger as a Catalyst for Change

In the Vibrational Spectrum framework, anger occupies a pivotal space (100-150 Hz)—while lower than courage and joy, it vibrates higher than fear and sadness. This positioning is crucial. Often, anger signals progress; it propels us forward, ignites our willpower, and catalyzes necessary change and the recognition of personal power.

It is, in essence, a bridge—a means of elevating oneself from the depths of hopelessness to the threshold of empowerment.

When we allow ourselves to feel anger, we acknowledge our worth. We take the first step toward reclaiming our power and rising into higher vibrations of courage, love, and joy. Anger can be the awareness that you deserve better and that you are ready to claim it.

Choosing Anger as an Act of Rebellion and Healing

The suppression of anger is often rooted in the cultural conditioning of Black women. We are taught to be “strong,” to bear burdens silently, be the unwavering pillars for everyone around us. Yet, this expectation leaves no room for our OWN emotional expression. When we deny our anger, we deny our humanity—our right to react to injustice, mistreatment, and personal violation.

Choosing anger disrupts this conditioning. It can feel rebellious. It is a radical act of self-affirmation that says, “I matter. My feelings are valid. My boundaries deserve respect.” By allowing ourselves to feel and express anger, we break free from the chains of suppression that keep us in lower vibrational states. We reclaim parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide.

Imagine letting your anger breathe, giving it space to exist without judgment. How might that free you? How might it fuel you to change the parts of your life that are no longer serving you?

Harnessing Anger for Growth

The magic lies not in lashing out, seeking revenge, or staying angry but in using that anger as fuel for transformation. Here’s how to start:

1. Allow It: Allow yourself to feel without judgment. Recognize it as a natural and necessary response.

2. Acknowledge It: Name your anger. Get specific about why you’re angry and who or what you’re angry with.

3. Feel It: Let yourself fully experience the emotion. Scream into a pillow, write an uncensored journal entry, or have a good, healthy cry.

4. Channel It: Ask yourself, “What needs to change?” or “What boundary needs to be set?” Use your anger as the motivation to take empowered action.

5. Transmute It: Engage in practices that help you shift energy—like moving your body, meditating, or creating something beautiful. This alchemy transforms anger into power, clarity, and direction.

6. Reflect and Release: Once anger has served its purpose, reflect on what it taught you and release it, making room for higher vibrational states like courage, trust, and eventually love.

The Higher Vibration of Authenticity

When we stop suppressing our anger, we open the door to authenticity. We show up more fully in our relationships, our work, and our lives. We become unapologetically ourselves, vibrating higher because we’re no longer pretending or holding back.

In a world that benefits from our silence, choosing anger—choosing “violence”—is a radical act of self-love and liberation. It’s a declaration that we deserve to be heard, to be respected, and to be whole.

So, the next time anger bubbles within you, honor it. Let it teach you, fuel you, and lift you into the higher vibrations of your most powerful self.